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Michael Onslow
London psychotherapist and counsellor
MBACP NCPS accred. Dip.CounsPsych
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Struggling at Christmas: When the holidays feel Hard
Christmas and the period leading into the New Year can be a deeply difficult time. While it’s often spoken about as a season of connection and celebration, many people experience it very differently. You may feel more alone, more exposed, or more aware of what feels missing. Old memories can surface. Family dynamics can become more intense. The pressure to appear cheerful or grateful can add to the strain when, inside, things feel heavy or exhausting. For some people, this ti
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2 days ago2 min read
Attachment anxiety in modern dating: Why Modern Romance Feels So Hard
Dating has always been emotional, but the world we date in now brings a new kind of pressure. With apps, endless choice, and fast expectations, finding love today can feel more overwhelming than ever. For many people, attachment anxiety in modern dating taps directly into old fears about being wanted, valued, and understood. Attachment theory can help make sense of why dating feels so intense, because it isn’t just about finding someone. It’s about feeling safe with someone.
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Oct 293 min read
When self-criticism and low self-esteem become a way of coping.
For many people, self-criticism and low self-esteem feel strangely safe. It can even seem useful as a way of keeping yourself in check, staying motivated, or avoiding mistakes. But over time, that inner voice that tells you to do better or try harder can become relentless, leaving you anxious, drained and unsure of your own worth. You might recognise the pattern of replaying conversations in your head, cringing at something you said, or feeling you’re never quite enough. On t
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Oct 142 min read
Attachment and Relationships: How Early Bonds Shape Adult Connection
Have you ever noticed that your relationships sometimes feel more complicated than they should? Maybe you pull away when things get too...
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Sep 302 min read
Trauma Therapy: A Trauma-Informed Approach
Starting therapy after trauma can feel daunting. You may wonder if you’ll be asked to talk about things you’re not ready to revisit, or...
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Sep 152 min read
How Therapy Can Help Us Heal After Traumatic Events - Therapy in London
When we go through something traumatic, the effects can linger long after the event itself. You might find yourself feeling constantly on...
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Sep 82 min read
Living with anxiety: Why it feels overwhelming and what can help.
Anxiety is one of the most common reasons people look for therapy. It can show up in different ways: racing thoughts, a constant sense of...
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Sep 12 min read
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