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Michael Onslow
London psychotherapist and counsellor
MBACP NCPS accred. Dip.CounsPsych
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Creativity, the Bully: When Creative Work Starts to Undermine Self-Worth
This post is part of a three-part series exploring how creative work can function as a refuge, a companion, and sometimes a source of emotional pressure. From Choice to Obligation For some people, creative work begins to shift from something chosen into something that feels unavoidable. As creative work becomes more closely tied to self-worth and emotional wellbeing, what once felt like refuge or companionship may start to feel like a demand. You may notice a sense that you h
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Jan 283 min read


Creativity, the Companion: When Creative Work Becomes an Emotional Anchor
This post is part of a three-part series exploring how creative work can function as a refuge, a companion, and sometimes a source of emotional pressure. Creative Work as an Emotional Companion For some people, creative work does not only function as a refuge, but begins to feel like a companion. It may feel alongside you during intense or uncertain periods, offering continuity when other connections feel fragile or unavailable. Rather than something you visit, it can start t
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Jan 282 min read


Creativity, the Refuge: How Creative Work Supports Emotional Wellbeing
This post is part of a three-part series exploring how creative work can function as a refuge, a companion, and sometimes a source of emotional pressure. Creative Work as a Place of Safety For many people, creative work becomes a refuge when life feels overwhelming. You may have found that it offers somewhere your inner experience can go when it feels too much to carry elsewhere, or when certain feelings are hard to express directly. Writing, music, visual work, movement, per
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Jan 283 min read


Attachment Anxiety in Modern Dating: Why Dating Can Feel So Hard for Creative People
Dating often brings a particular kind of intensity. Even when nothing dramatic is happening, it can feel emotionally loaded, exposing, and strangely hard to hold lightly. You might notice yourself reading into silences, replaying conversations, or feeling unsettled by small shifts in tone or timing. What looks simple on the surface can quickly begin to feel overwhelming. The Emotional Intensity of Modern Dating Modern dating, particularly through apps, can heighten this sense
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Jan 23 min read


Struggling at Christmas
Christmas and the period leading into the New Year can be a deeply difficult time. While it’s often spoken about as a season of connection and celebration, many people experience it very differently. You may feel more alone, more exposed, or more aware of what feels missing. Old memories can surface. Family dynamics can become more intense. The pressure to appear cheerful or grateful can add to the strain when, inside, things feel heavy or exhausting. For some people, this ti
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Dec 21, 20252 min read
When self-criticism and low self-esteem become a way of coping.
For many people, self-criticism and low self-esteem feel strangely safe. It can even seem useful as a way of keeping yourself in check, staying motivated, or avoiding mistakes. But over time, that inner voice that tells you to do better or try harder can become relentless, leaving you anxious, drained and unsure of your own worth. You might recognise the pattern of replaying conversations in your head, cringing at something you said, or feeling you’re never quite enough. On t
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Oct 14, 20252 min read
Attachment and Relationships: How Early Bonds Shape Adult Connection
Have you ever noticed that your relationships sometimes feel more complicated than they should? Maybe you pull away when things get too...
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Sep 30, 20252 min read
Trauma Therapy: A Trauma-Informed Approach
Starting therapy after trauma can feel daunting. You may wonder if you’ll be asked to talk about things you’re not ready to revisit, or...
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Sep 15, 20252 min read
How Therapy Can Help Us Heal After Traumatic Events - Therapy in London
When we go through something traumatic, the effects can linger long after the event itself. You might find yourself feeling constantly on...
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Sep 8, 20252 min read
Living with anxiety: Why it feels overwhelming and what can help.
Anxiety is one of the most common reasons people look for therapy. It can show up in different ways: racing thoughts, a constant sense of...
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Sep 1, 20252 min read
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